Through the years we’ll get to watch Rylan and Caden come into their own, and it will always be interesting to observe their inherent differences and similarities. We’re closing in on four weeks as a family of four and let me say, they couldn’t be more different…both in their features (check out the side by side! Ry is on the left) and in their early personalities.
As I sat down to write this post (yesterday…could never get enough time to finish it) my eyes are swollen and bleary. I can count on one hand the good days/nights of sleep since coming home from the hospital. With Rylan it was polar opposite. I could count the bad days on one hand as he loved sleep but fought me on eating.
I am extremely grateful that Caden is a good eater, especially since he joined us at just 5 lbs 10 oz. Ry put on weight slowly, requiring us to go in for constant weight checks, which reduced me to tears every time he had a bad feed. But I have never outgrown needing a lot of sleep and the lack of it is certainly starting to show. I am making weird, dumb mistakes all the time…like parking downtown and walking away completely oblivious to feeding the parking meter. Or ordering a salad at lunch, having it come covered in chicken, only to re-read the menu and see chicken listed as the first ingredient. One can only function for so long on hour long sleep spurts.
We’re trying everything for a bit of sleep “mercy” as I now call it…
- Gas drops for what appears to be major discomfort
- I’ve cut dairy and am poised to go on a fairly drastic “anti colic” diet and eliminate nearly everything delicious to try and see what else might be bothering him (various veggies, most fruits, dairy, some beans, lentils, tomatoes, cucumbers…)
- Inclining the crib and basinet to relieve gas-related discomfort
- Resorting to the Rock n’ Play when we simply cannot bear another moment of shrieks, though it terrifies me from a SIDS perspective so we’re now only going to use it during the day, supervised, when we need a few moments of quiet
- Tummy massages and essential oils
- Sarcasm & laughter to stay sane
- Texts with my other mom friends on maternity leave who are also “in the trenches” of sleeplessness
- Starbucks (caffeine is a no no on the anti colic diet but I cannot give up my one cup and make it through the day. #sorrynotsorry)
A bright spot in the delirium is how much more Caden craves being held. Rylan needed to be put down and did better when he wasn’t in people’s arms. Since we plan for this to be our last babe, I’m loving his cuddles and how he responds to my endless kisses. He still fits so perfectly on my chest, all curled up like he was in the womb. I think I’ve got a mama’s boy on my hands!!